Monday, October 19, 2009

Fitting in...

I don't think I fit in...

I'm kind of stuck in between traditional and natural parenting. What the hell does that mean? I vaccinate... I'm okay with the fact I had a c-section... My child wears cloth and disposable diapers... We still have plastic in the house... We're weeding out high fructose corn syrup. I don't buy all organic - I'm too cheap for that.

There's just a lot of things that separate me from both my peers and my coworkers. I fit in here. I fit in with my close friends. Trying to fit in with my coworkers - it's tough. Their priorities and my priorities are totally different. I look like the hippy granola girl with them. Which I'm not. But one of the big reasons why I look like that is due to still breastfeeding... or let me rephrase it... because we've breastfed for so long. I know it always comes back to the b**bs doesn't it?

However with the granola group - well I don't fit in either. I'm okay with having the birth I had... hell I was maybe disappointed for about 5 minutes, but then there was that real live healthy baby and everything about disappointment went out the window. I can't muster any energy to be upset about the birth SD had. It was what it was and I have a healthy, happy child because of it. Then there's the vaccinate or not vaccinate debate which makes my head explode. Especially now with all the s*ine f*u talk and the vaccinations regarding that. I know that my decisions are based on what I see at work and lets just say that is not a pretty picture - which without disclosing how I fall on the vaccination debate probably gives you an idea of how I fall.

Ultimately I am so thankful for this space... this collection of women who I can say I fit in with. Maybe infertility brought us together, but my parenting choices hasn't brought us apart. For that I am thankful.

4 comments:

Amy said...

I think we all make the best choices we can for our children and that's all we can do. Whether or not we make the same choices is irrelevant. Children need food, health care, clothing, shelter, and love. If the food is from Gerber or homemade, who cares as long as s/he's fed? If the clothes are all natural organic fibers or synthetic, who cares as long as s/he's warm? If the child is vaccinated or not, who cares as long as s/he's properly cared for in sickness? I don't understand why everyone needs to beat down on their neighbor for their parenting decisions. You're clearly doing a great job!!!!

Surfing Mom SC said...

Amy above said it best. As long as your child is fed, warm, and healthy then you are doing it right!
And just so you know- I'm with you.
We use cloth and disposable. Coupon cut and buy at big chain grocery store while augmenting with farmer's market organics. Breastfeed while sometimes vaccinating. Craziness.

Kandi Ann said...

I know I am way late answering. You don't post often so.. anyways. I am so proud to see that you are/were breast feeding as long are you are/were. I saw a ticker that said, my child got the breast for... I loved it. If I could have procreated I would have (moot I know) gone as long as a friend of mine did. It was creepy to her because she lied and hit it but I thought that she was the most loving doting mom around. Ok. peace. xoxo, Kandi Ann (I am in a self pity/pathetic place so you don't have to read me or respond. )

Leilani said...

Like Kandi Ann, this is ages after your post...I stumbled on to your blog after having a miscarriage. Your parenting styles sounds a lot like what I hope mine will be, when/if it happens. Just general good thoughts and some kind of support!