I'm fairly open about our reproductive issues... why bother hiding it and it also tends to shut people up when they ask "So when are you two going to have a baby?" I always love the shock factor and well saying - we're habitual aborters and we'll have a child when the stars align and my uterus is a warm an inviting place - definitely is a shock factor.
Anyways the point is that I ran into someone I know at the RE's office yesterday. I knew that they were having difficulties from a mutual friend, however I didn't know to what extent etc... it was a weird, uncomfortable moment when they looked up and said my name... weird as in how do you handle that one? We talked for a bit and I wished them luck. I hope I handled it right. I just don't know.
It's simpler when it's a woman that's the friend... this was a guy that I've known for about 8 years... and I have a lot of respect for him and don't want to butt into his business... I'd like to give him support, but it's weird, it's just not a smooth transition.
Example of a different friend... she and I used to work together... both of us go to the same clinic. She and I talked about everything when we saw each other on Friday. It was comfortable, no embarrassment, no awkwardness. She told me what her plans for the upcoming cycle was and I told her mine...
Infertility is hard... and you can't pretend that you ran into someone in a coffee shop when it's the RE's office... wouldn't that be nice. If only they installed a coffee bar and bookstore at the RE's office... then I could pretend.