Tuesday, October 24, 2006

Coffee Shop?

I'm fairly open about our reproductive issues... why bother hiding it and it also tends to shut people up when they ask "So when are you two going to have a baby?" I always love the shock factor and well saying - we're habitual aborters and we'll have a child when the stars align and my uterus is a warm an inviting place - definitely is a shock factor.

Anyways the point is that I ran into someone I know at the RE's office yesterday. I knew that they were having difficulties from a mutual friend, however I didn't know to what extent etc... it was a weird, uncomfortable moment when they looked up and said my name... weird as in how do you handle that one? We talked for a bit and I wished them luck. I hope I handled it right. I just don't know.

It's simpler when it's a woman that's the friend... this was a guy that I've known for about 8 years... and I have a lot of respect for him and don't want to butt into his business... I'd like to give him support, but it's weird, it's just not a smooth transition.

Example of a different friend... she and I used to work together... both of us go to the same clinic. She and I talked about everything when we saw each other on Friday. It was comfortable, no embarrassment, no awkwardness. She told me what her plans for the upcoming cycle was and I told her mine...

Infertility is hard... and you can't pretend that you ran into someone in a coffee shop when it's the RE's office... wouldn't that be nice. If only they installed a coffee bar and bookstore at the RE's office... then I could pretend.


DD said...

It is one of the craziest mysteries I have encountered in the nearly year and a half we've been seeing an RE: we can form strong bonds with the people we've never met on these blogs; but we can hardly make eye-contact w/the people in our clinic - whether we know them or not.

ellie said...

I can totally relate to this-- I always go into the REs office and look around wondering if I will recognize someone and fearing it at the same time.